Summer's upon us. Conference season begins. This year we have THREE incredible
Northwest Polyamory Conference at Harbin Hot Springs, CA, 2)
Northeast Polyamory Conference, Bryn Mawr, PA; and 3) the
Loving Conference in Chicago, IL. While each conference may have a
main theme, we diversify the experience for all and feature polyamory, tantra,
paganism, spirituality, magick, BDSM, metaphysics and more. We include
mind-expansive, cutting-edge, open-minded professional speakers, workshop
presenters, musicians, artists, dancers and entertainers from the mind, body,
soul and spirit movements.
We've had many requests from Europe, Australia, Asia and especially the
Southern U.S. for the World Polyamory Association for us to bring
conferences and workshops to those parts of the world. We're delighted to go
wherever called. We need the support of local coordinators and
volunteers to step forward to make it happen. That's what happened with
Chicago. The Chicago community beckoned to us and together we're creating a
major Conference (Art
of Loving Conference) this Fall and a focused tantra weekend intensive,
Celebrate Sacred Sexuality, in June. We'd love to create a tantra,
relationship, polyamory, Voice Dialogue, Holotropic Breathwork, VIniyoga or
Existential Life Review workshop for
your community or group in your area too. It's expensive to
travel but if we pool resources we can create what
you need in your area.
Sasha and I'll be home most of July and August so we created two tantra
intensives in response to many requests. Since this newsletter's getting
long, I'll just include the links in the table of contents below and tell you
more about them next time.
We're looking forward to seeing you on our summer tour. Come up and
introduce yourself to us.
Polyamory’s juicy. The thought of loving outside the box, going beyond
the norm, having your cake and eating it too excites us. Polyamory’s a
concept that’s so enticing, it’s captivated a whole new generation.
phone rings off the hook. We’re polyamory counselors and polyamory has
arrived. Our clients ask “What’s this polyamory stuff and how can I get
some? More and more people can relate to the concept of polyamory; they
know what it’s about, they’re getting poly saavy. Some are even
beginning to know the difference between swinging and polyamory. Poly
jargon’s everywhere. Even yahoo groups have a category for polyamory.
We’ve come a long way.
about growth. It’s a high-paced, super-charged, lightning-fast track to
enlightenment. But polyamory has hazards. For one thing, once you
succeed at polyamory, it’s impossible to climb back into monogamy’s
box. Monotonous monogamy no longer numbs. Expectations and shoulds fade,
wakens you fast. Master loving more than one, you’re certain to
smile. Your heart expands. Polyamory’s like some hidden secret;
once you’ve succeeded, mastered your true potential to love, you wonder
how the rest of the world operates with its limited perspective.
Polyamorists and mongamists both can experience jealousy. But jealousy
serves no one. It’s self destructive. If you're jealous, look at
what’s making you feel that way. See how you can rise above it. You
can rise above your jealousy if it's about putting yourself down by
comparing you to someone else. You can transcend your jealousy if
you can see plenty instead of lack? If your jealousy's based on fear
you won't get enough attention from your mate(s) you can simply request
the attention you need instead of wallowing in jealousy. You free
yourself from jealousy, when you do something to liven up your life
instead of staying overly dependent on a certain lover to meet your
Jealous emotions challenge you to look within. Jealousy of others
makes you see how you can enjoy in yourself what you admire in others
but think you lack by comparison. If
someone you're jealous of is wealthier than you, you convert you
jealousy into steps you can take to increase your wealth or be satisfied
with what do earn.
If the person of whom you're jealous is slimmer than you, you address
your negative body comparison by diet, exercise or self-acceptance.
Instead of suffering with jealousy, accept and love yourself.
Jealousy's a signal for you to learn to love
yourself better. When you stop wallowing in jealousy, you stop acting the victim, blaming and shaming.
You ask what
healing you need to do on yourself. Ask your lovers to help you
you learn to love yourself, your mate(s) may spend
more time with because you’ll be more fun. Are you ready to
feel more love in your life? Maybe it’s time to stretch your
boundaries that limit
When you’ve enjoyed watching your lover love another, you free
yourself of fear and negativity. You finally “get it”.
When you love unconditionally, you’re full of love and warm fuzzies. You’ve succeed on a deep and profound level,
overcome your fears and limitations; you understand what love’s all
In 1993, when I started my first poly discussion group, Pali
Paths (in Honolulu), there were only four of us. We wondered how to
explain to others the depth of conviction we held that polyamory was
right for us and might be for them too. Most folks thought we were crazy, looney tunes, eccentric, immoral. But deep down we knew
polyamory was about
love in its purest form. We remembered how souls danced polyamorously,
existed in a state of loving oneness. There must be some way to bring
that loving state into the physical plane.
Many times we felt disheartened. People didn’t even know the term “polyamory”.
Where were the others to share with us?
held space at Pali Paths. Week after week no one showed up. We didn’t
give up. We advertised, posted posters, chatted, educated, talked, went
on radio, television, wrote for magazines, attended conferences. We
came out of the closet the best we could without sacrificing jobs. We
had our dramas and traumas. We alienated friends, family and some even
lost jobs. It wasn’t easy, but we knew our truth and we thought it would resonate with a lot of others. Was that
truly only 12 years ago? Look how much we’ve accomplished. Imagine
where we’ll go.
I’m involved in a conscious poly network. I have clients who’ve
mastered the jargon, blazed trails and are showing their friends and
families the poly way. I have lovers who’ve learned how to overcome their
fears and when to they come to me they show up, are fully present. I
have family that’s learned how to accept me for who I am. Even my sister
Louise, who once wanted to send Mormon deprogrammers to rescue me from
my polyamorous boyfriend, now supports my choice of polyamory. Friends
now honor my personal choices. Some even support legislation that
lets me and others like me make our choices. We're poly pioneers and
they're our supporters. We’re bold, brave, open, unafraid.
beginners come in to my therapy office and look at their programming and
cultural conditioning. They consciously chose to reprogram themselves.
They look at their relationships and see how they can open to more love
include others. They come to support groups, workshops, conferences.
They connect, see that they’re not so alone.
world’s changing. The ultra-conservatives that get riled up by our
choices seem ridiculous, wrapped around their fears. We wonder what harm
our loving those we do can possibly do to conservatives who choose
monogamy. The world’s
polarizing in many ways but there’s ever-so-slight an opening, a window
of opportunity that can give us more freedom. All we can do is persevere, hang
in there and stay true to ourselves.
Ultimately, the truth will set us all free. Love is the hope of the
world and polyamory, loving more than one sex partner, is one of the
avenues to a more loving planet.
Celebrate and intensify your intimacy. Open all your energy centers
(chakras), heal emotional wounds, expand ecstasy; you love each of your
beloveds more. Synergize your inner security, sexuality, power, love,
communication, vision, and spiritual chakras. Regress and reprogram your
imprints so you relax and love more.
Enhance intimacy, growth, respect, caring and passion with each lover. Share
hearts. You help heal their hurts and they, yours. You learn how to center
yourself and communicate kindly and genuinely. Enjoy your individuality and
also transcend it in soul-synergy with your loves.
From your Center, see your diverse inner-voices and your sweethearts’.
Recognize your disowned energies in your lovers’ attitudes and behaviors.
Show them what hurts and scares you, the vulnerability you cover in
defensiveness. Drop defensiveness and you can deal with what’s upsetting you
directly. Learn when and how to let your Inner Children connect with each
Here's a summary of body parts, tantric tasks and Sanskrit sound (in
parentheses) associated with each chakra.
1. PERINEUM, Rectum. (lam) Align perennial (base) chakra energies with your
sweethearts’; reinforce each other's sense of safety, health and security.
2. GENITALS, Reproductive organs. (vam) Connect and pleasure each other's
second chakras with touch, intention and breathing techniques. Boost each
other's sensuality, creativity and sexuality.
3. SOLAR PLEXUS (ram) Empower yourself and your lovers.
4. HEART (yam) Open your love and courage to each other.
5. THROAT (ham) Say your truth kindly; listen with love.
6. BRAIN (ooo) Help each other think, intuit and envision; put your heads
together as a mutual mind.
7. CROWN (mmm) Flow energy between your crown and your beloveds’. Rise above
your separate, individual self-senses and merge with each other. You all
merge with pastlife lovers, with the polyamorous lover archetype, with all
humanity and with Earth and the Universe.
Chakra 1: PERINEUM: MATERIAL GROUNDING
Join your lovers in healthy activities. Help each other feel secure and
safe. Share financially. Encourage each of your lovers' wellness as you eat,
exercise and stretch together. Massage each other all over. Caress each
other’s base chakras, inside and out. Chant "lam."
If you’re male, invite your lovers to put fingers into your rectum and
stroke your prostate and the pleasure spot behind your pubic bone.
Whatever your gender, rectal massage helps you hear inner voices that deal
with survival. As your lovers touch you inside, you hear your Inner Critic,
your Pleaser, your Warrior. You hear voices that protect your Inner Kid from
overwhelming physical and emotional pain and from death. Interview these
voices; learn their present concerns. Listen to your Inner Child. Let all
your inner voices express themselves and you can integrate their contributions.
Chakra 2: GENITALS: SEX, SENSUALITY, REPRODUCTION
Center yourself and master your sexy and conservative voices.
Stroke the inner, belly-side of each woman’s vagina, stroking gently from
pubic bone to orifice. Help her emote and rescript self-limiting decisions
she remembers when you stroke her. Then she will, with great pleasure,
respond to your strokes. She ejaculates. Amrita--the female ejaculate--springs from its urethral
The women manipulate the men’s first and second chakras. A man, too,
regresses, releases pent-up emotions and learns alternate behaviors which
better serve him now.
Enjoy a wider range of sensuality.
Join genitals. Men, nestle your penis, limp or erect, into the women in your
And men, you can decide whether you ejaculate. Retain your ejaculate and
pull your energy up, when you choose, instead of squirting. It’s easy. When
you feel ejaculation pending, shift your focus from your genitals to your
hands, eyes and lips. Concentrate on using your fingers, mouth and gaze to
delight your lovers. Pull energy up from your genitals as you squeeze your
pubococcygeal, diaphragm and throat muscles. Picture energy flowing from
your crown into your lovers’. Chant "vam."
Chakra 3: SOLAR PLEXUS: POWER, DIGESTION
Take what's yours, choose boundaries right for you. Assert yourself
appropriately. Empower each other. Chant "ram."
Explore power chakra dynamics with your love group. Learn how you bond,
sometimes sweetly, sometimes sourly, into parent-child roles. Ram
meditations help you return to sweet and centered interaction.
You and lovers sour when you (or they) feel scared or hurt but hide the
hurt. You hide it and pretend all’s well. Or criticize yourself for feeling
Stop hiding pain; say what hurts. If any of your lovers hide their
vulnerable feelings, guess what hurts and scares them, under their hiding. When you and they unmask fears and insecurities,
you touch hearts again. Return to center and sweet interaction.
Chakra 4: HEART: LOVE, COURAGE
Chant "yam," evoke your Divine Consort. Love, adore, support and cheer your
lovers. Get sweet; romance each other.
Share consciousness. Identify with each of your lovers. Walk in each other's
spiritual moccasins. Synergize your separate spirits within a larger spirit,
the spirit of your love group.
Chakra 5: THROAT: EXPRESSION
Chant "ham." Hear and express each of your inner voices (subselves).
Appreciate them and find creative ways to express them.
Honor your lovers’ many voices too. Talk straight with love; tell your
Sanctify sex. Select words that revere sexual organs and acts. Yoni (sacred
space) for vagina, lingam (wand of light) for penis, honoring (cunnilingus,
fellatio), rosebud (anus), drapes (vaginal lips), polish her pearl
(clitoral honoring). Create your own poetic sex words.
Chakra 6: BRAIN: VISION, INTUITION, INTELLECT
For the sixth chakra, recognize your Intellect and your inner Psychic as
subselves as you chant "ooo" to each other. Employ your Intellect as needed
and do not let it masquerade as you, the Center.
Share and expand visions for yourself, your lovers, your community and
world. Intuit each other's thoughts and feelings. Meld minds with your kids,
parents and friends. Dreams, past life images, fantasies guide you.
Chakra 7: CROWN: UNITY CONSCIOUSNESS
Chant "mmm." Rise to wider perspectives of your crown chakra and your
lovers' crowns. Yet stay aware
of the wisdom of chakras 1-6. Encompass more than Thinker, Pleaser or other subselves. Expand your awareness to more than your bodies. Expand your
perspective to everyone and everything everywhere at all times.
CHANT THEM ALL
Face your beloveds. To each other, chant "lam, vam, ram, yam, ham, ooo" and
"mmm" in succession. Do this three times. As you chant each sound, feel its
chakra. Feel the whole vortex of consciousness within everyone in your love
group as though you are all, collectively, a single,
integrated fountain rushing through a group body with a base, sexual, power,
love, clarity and spiritual center even as you feel the energy rising in
your separate bodies with each chanted syllable.
As a group and as individuals, experience unity; the seamless web of consciousness that links the manifest
universe. Merge with the latent--unformed but always arising--metacosmic
void. Identify with divine play that can manifest all forms. Infuse all
chakras with the radiant joy of your spiritual chakra.
Meditate in silence for several minutes,
then kiss each of your lovers.
California Conference, Celebrate Relationship Choice, at
Harbin Hot Springs, CA (June 17-19, 2005) in Middleton, (two
hours from San Francisco) offers optional nudity, free sexual expression in
World Polyamory Association's designated private area, healing hot pools.
We've scheduled interactive workshops on pair bonding, romantic
love, multiple-partner sexuality, jealousy management, BDSM in poly
relations, bisexual loving and choreographing the dance of poly
loving. Enjoy panel discussions, networking, party and opportunities
to experience living compersion–empathy for others' love-joy.
Presenters include Kelly Bryson, Shama Malin, Donald Michael Kraig,
Dave Doleshal, Sasha and Janet Kira Lessin, Harold Kornylak, Amber
Seitz, Cougar Brenneman, Tana Gallante, Scott Catamas, Master Rex, Dawn
Akien MacLain, Scott Longewell, Scott Catamas, Terry & Paul Brussel-Gibbons
Brussel-Jenkins, Ed Jor-El Elkin, Cathy & Barry Smiler and
more. If you'd like to present too, email us; we're open to more. We'd
especially like a presentation on the interface between paganism and
HOT SPRINGS CONFERENCE HIGHLIGHTS ED JOR-EL ELKIN:Bi-Poly Options & Sex for
Senior Polys Ed Jor-El Elkin presents two workshops at this conference. He writes, in
"BI-POLY OPTIONS AND SEX FOR SENIOR POLYS, we explore
bi-sexual polyamorous relationship in a safe and supportive
environment. This workshop is for
all levels of interest, especially for the bi-curious as well as the
bisexually experienced. A theoretical and experiential guide
to the bi-poly option with guided imagery, pair and multiple partner
exercises. Using movement and dance, transformational theater and
role-playing exercises with opposite sex and same sex partners, we
explore the bi-poly option in fantasy and in
In SENIOR SEX, UPS & DOWNS, INS & OUTS, Ed writes, "At over 65, many in our culture think that sex is over,
especially when you are still young. However, for many of us
in the "senior" category, an ongoing sex life is certainly an asset
although perhaps not as compulsive as when we were younger.
Viagra, Cialis and other boosts to male sexuality are here.
Here in Harbin, we can discuss the
issues concerning men and women in their elder years. All ages are
Explore the art of sacred loving.
Celebrate love and passion; enjoy tantric energy exchanges,
partnering, lovemaking, sharing, compassionate communication.
Celebrate Sacred Sensuality is based on All-Chakra Tantra,
the unique, comprehensive, expansive, taught exclusively by
Janet and Sasha Lessin, Ph. D. All-Chakra Tantra blends tantra
practices with modern transformative, spiritual sexuality
exercises and Jungian psychology to give you hands-on
experiences, reverent relationship rituals, inspirational
demonstrations, fun-filled fantasy fulfillments and coached
coupling. Advance your consciousness, improve your partnership
and love more.
Friday, June 24, 7 - 10 PM: ALL-CHAKRA TANTRA RITUAL: all
present get to know each other in the course of learning and
practicing with the opening of each of their energy centers in a
tantric ritual. In the All-Chakra Tantra Ceremony (Puja) rites,
we send, receive and blend with seven partners. As we rotate
among partners, we relate in a structured energy exchange for
each, with a different partner, energy from each of our seven
energy centers--chakras (members of a couple can, alternatively,
do all the rites with each other). The rite we do with each
successive partner flows from a syllable of the Bija Mantra,
where each syllable awakens a different chakra. One partner, one
chakra: security, sensuality, power, love, communication,
insight and spirituality awaken. Then we return to our initial
partner for the entire, kundalini-charged Mantra, expand your
consciousness to one shared with your partner, with the group.
Saturday, June 25, 10AM - 6:30PM: REALLY LOVE WOMEN
Learn how to help a woman open all chakras as you communicate
kindly and effectively, heal her wounds, remove her (and your)
limits to loving in connected lovemaking rituals that bring
consciousness to lovemaking, where lovemaking heightens your
spiritual awareness. The Lessins demonstrate how to give her the
mind-blowing amrita (female ejaculate) orgasm.
Sunday, June 26, 11AM - 5PM: LOVE MEN
The Lessins guide you as you learn to mirror, validate and
empathize with a man, communicate compassionately, heal his
hurts, gift and touch him, stimulate him satisfactorily, help
him master ejaculatory control.
$295 SINGLES, $495 COUPLES - This seminar is gender balanced.
Call 808-244-4103 to register.
MBER: Hello everyone! My name is
Rose (Ember) and I am seeking a sponsor(s) so that I can attend
the August 22-26, 2005 Tantra Practitoner Event (LEVEL
I: CERTIFIED TANTRA PRACTITONER).
Thank you for considering sponsoring me, and for being so generous
if you do! I love you in advance!
Here’s a little about me. I am a single lady, and intend to
explore sexual enlightenment, specifically polyamory. I am in the
mode of looking for my fabulous partner so we can explore this
together, so presently I am not sexually active.
I used to sing for the U.S. Air Force Glen
Miller Band in Japan and traveled around Asia. I quit the Air Force to
pursue stardom and was successful! I was featured with my original song
“Too Late” in a Sony commercial which aired in Japan for 3 months. But
then I started becomming depressed for an unknown reason, came back to
the U.S. to recover, and within two months I had a stroke. I was in the
hospital for 6 weeks. I was told that I would not sing nor walk again,
but knew I would. I was put into a brain injury shelter to recover, and
I became very, very small and self-conscious.
Then I had a spiritual awakening that begun an explosion! All of a
sudden I was pursuing every kind of self-development or spiritual
program I could get my hands on. Landmark Education, the Ramtha School
of Enlightenment, Liberty League, etc., with the intention of having the
rest of my life be about making the biggest impact I can on the world. I
recovered from my stroke 100%.
I am presently in transition back to singing. And now I have ideas for
what I would like to do through singing to make my impact. I would like
through my speaking and singing to spark a mass movement to
enlightenment! I will share my experiences, and I intend to explore and
share about love and human sexuality. I need to develop myself in this
area, and that’s why I want to come and be with you fabulous Gods and
Goddesses this summer!
I am in need of airfare, lodging, meals, and transportation, which I
believe would cost $2000. Thank you so much for reading this and being
interested in what I'm up to. I'm visualizing seeing you all this
MATEYLA: 39 Year Big Beautiful Poly-Goddess seeks Polymale companion to
attend School of Tantra’s LEVEL I: CERTIFIED TANTRA PRACTITONER, August
22-27, 2005 (www.schooloftantra.com) for POSSIBLE Twinflame/Soulmate
Love, Monogamous/Polyamorous Marriage and Tantric Lifestyle.
Rules of engagement are:
1. You need to know you are love
2. You need to be completely honest
3. You need to completely and fully accept everything about me and how I
feel about any intimate act without question weather it is a green light
or a red light.
4. Love fully in the moment, moment to moment
5. Take full accountability for the choices you make and full
accountability for the love you make
6. Be able to receive all of the above from me and be completely loved
no matter what forever.
7. A wicked sense of humor would be nice too!!!!!!!!!!!
Pennsylvania's gorgeous this time of year. We've
just the right formula for love and blossoming
poly romances as we mix a poly conference with
colorful trees, warm days and chilly nights.
Come join us, stoke up the fire and cuddle close
in our poly puppy pile.
SUPER EARLY BIRD DISCOUNT. Register before May 15th and
before June 15, 2005 - $215
Members before June 15, 2005 - $155
before July 15, 2005 - $235
Members before July 15, 2005 - $175
before August 15, 2005 - $255
Members before August 15, 2005 - $195
before September 15, 2005 - $275
Members before September 15, 2005 - $215
September 15, 2005 and after - $295
Members September 15, 2005 and after - $235
ART OF LOVING CONFERENCE:
Spirituality, Sexuality, Sensuality,
Conscious Connections, Sacred Relations
Eros, Ecstasy, Eroticism, Intimacy -
ALL ORIENTATIONS & RELATIONSHIP STYLES -
September 30, October 1 & 2, 2005
is brought to you by the Chicago TANTRA, BDSM, POLYAMORY,
PAGANISM & MAGICK, SPRITUAL & RELATIONSHIP CHOICE Communities.
It's also SPONSORED by the WORLD TANTRA ASSOCIATION, WORLD POLYAMORY
ASSOCIATION, WORLD PEACE ASSOCIATION & SCHOOL OF TANTRA
Come together. Join us to co-create and make merry. Magicially
manifest, tantrically transform, discover heights and greater
delights. Dare to share, awareness and care. Holistic, holograms
produce new-paradigm partnering, modern families, visions of ancient
tantric tribe. Dance, romance in a cosmic trance. Greet the dawn of
Aquarius; celebrate life, liberty and love.
We bring together cutting-edge
Information Age paradigm progressives and cultural creatives.
We feature presenters, healers, teachers, entertainers,
facilitators, leaders, shamans, tantricas, musicians, artists who
create more LOVE in their lives and the world.
From our gatherings and collaborative
efforts we discover, learn and implement new ways to heal the
Earth and her peoples. We bring PEACE, NOW in our lives.
We promote love; for individuals, families, lovers, beloveds,
communities and the planet as a soul.
Celebrate love and passion in a
weekend journey to sacred sexuality, where playful
spirits enjoy tantric energy exchanges, partnering,
lovemaking, sharing, compassionate communication and
more. Our blend of tantra practices combined with
modern transformative, spiritual sexuality exercises
and Jungian psychology give you hands-on experiences,
reverent relationship rituals, inspirational
demonstrations, fun-filled fantasy fulfillments, play
parties and coached coupling. Choreograph the dance of
yin and yang at each chakra. Advance your
consciousness, improve pairing and model love more.
Connect deeper with your partner or find new love.
This tantra playshop is ideal for beginners.
POLYAMORY: MORE LOVES, MORE LOVING
Synergistic Sacred Sex & Reverational Relationships for Three or More Lovers
by Sasha Lessin, Ph. D & Janet Kira Lessin, guides you and your love group to a fun-filled weekend of
All-Chakra Total Tantra to intensify intimacy and celebrate each other. In
this celebration, you open all your energy centers (chakras), heal emotional
wounds, expand ecstasy and love for each other. You celebrate your separate
selves and also transcend them in delightful spiritual energy with each
POLYAMORY, MANY LOVES: The Poly Tantric Lovesyle, A Personal
Account Janet Kira Lessin, is an autobiographical testimonial of Janet's experiences
with polyamory and tantra. Hold onto your hats for a wild ride! Polyamory
may not be the easiest lifestyle, but it's sure fun. The ups and downs of
relating with more than one certainly keep things lively. Never a dull
moment. Combine polyamorous relating with tantra and you're soaring to new
We know you're out there. We got a
lot of response. We know you have a lot to see. Stories to
tell us. We got a lot of emails from people saying
they'll contribute, send in articles but not many articles
actually came in our mail. We need YOUR contributions in
order to make this happen.
poly magazine, POLYAMORY seeks articles, stories, thoughts,
ideas. POLYAMORY is for you, about you and others like you. Share your victories, follies, highs, lows,
hopes, woes, loves, loves lost, excitement, depression,
happiness, sadness, joy, sorrow and bliss. We want to
hear it all, know all about you and what it takes to be polyamorous in these amazing and sometimes trying times. We'd love to
feature your art on our web site and zines. We'd even
love to share your photos with the world (if everyone in the
photos grants their permission). Show us how talented you are.
Share your happy faces and joy that you've found with your
poly loves and family. We're here to promote you and
your work. We're here to change the world, make it a
better place for all of us. Please send your
contributions: articles, arts, comics, poetry, advertisements,
announcements, groups, professional bios, etc. to
Member's of the World
Polyamory Association get a free personal ad so you may easily
find the relationships you seek.